Does your kid complain about everything all the time? Does he lose hope fast? Is he dealing with relationship problems or peer pressure? Does he lack the ability to face difficult situations with a positive attitude? If yes, then he might be on the road to failure. However, the good thing is that with the right parenting style, you can put him on the road to success by changing his mental approach to the challenges. It’s time to teach the importance of optimism to your kids and instilling positivity in them. Here are a handful of suggestions on how you can go about it.
Teach Teens to Practice Gratitude
Optimism is nothing else than being grateful for what you have instead of crying over things you did not get in life. As the Roman saying goes, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” It is through gratitude that we can enjoy life at its best. When your kid starts showing gratitude, he will automatically feel optimistic. The best way to teach your youngsters to be grateful is by asking them to maintain a journal where they must write at least one thing they are thankful for at the start or end of every single day. With the passage of time, teens will unconsciously start focusing on positive aspects of everything while ignoring its drawbacks.
Teach Teens How To Ditch Pessimist People
Sometimes negativity comes from the environment, so it is very important to teach kids how to stay away from people who have a habit of highlighting the lows of everything. Ask your teens to get rid of all those so-called friends who remind them of their weakness, insecurities and regrets. Encourage them to create a circle of optimist people who celebrate life and all the joys it brings rather than complaining and crying over the challenges all the time.
Teach Teens to Take Responsibility
Teens become pessimist when they consider themselves victims. You must teach them to take responsibility for all their actions so that they may not blame anyone or regret anything afterward. Allow them to do what they really want, even if you know it’s not good for them, as wisdom comes through experience. A wise person once said that life is 90% what happens to us and 10% how we react to it. Make kids realize that even though they cannot completely control every situation, they can surely control how to react to it. The major difference between optimism and pessimism is just the difference of thoughts. It’s how we take things which make us an optimist or a pessimist.
Give Examples from Real Life
Teens may not become optimist overnight, so you must invest your time and energy to change the way their mind react to different situations. The best way to do so is to give them examples from real life. If the kid gets worried on receiving poor grades in a quiz, then tell him that poor grades have given him a lesson that he has to stop wasting time on the internet and give more time to studies. In the same way, you can give examples of all other people who are going through an ordeal, but still managing to stay afloat. Do not be hesitant in giving examples of teen’s friends or class fellows who are given less, but still they never complain about anything. This practice will make teens realize how lucky they are, which will automatically make them more optimist.