Parents are ought to witness various acts of maturity in their teens, especially in their teenage years. Sometimes they act mature just like how a normal adult would do but sometimes they’d go out of the way to display signs of immaturity. There are times when they act rebelliously and do not listen to anybody while taking decisions. They behave immaturely in front of the public which can become somewhat embarrassing not only for them but also their parents.
The teen brain is wired just as it is in most adults, therefore parents need to communicate effectively with them to make them understand how to handle immaturity and how to deal with problematic situations. The first step would be understanding the underlying cause of immaturity in their teens. once parents have understood it, they can engage their teens in conversations that can lead them to behave like mature adults.
With the help of following ways parents can help their teens deal with immaturity:
Understand the Cause
Like mentioned above, parents need to understand the real cause of immaturity in their teens. A teenage brain is quite a complex one. When a child is in his teen years, he has adult needs and he often uses his childish techniques to satisfy them. Parents should understand that this act of immaturity is not intentional but a side effect of not knowing how to get what he really wants.
Help Them Set Goals
Most of the teens become clueless when it comes to setting goals for themselves. In fact, they might end up taking unsuitable routes to reach their goals. In such scenarios, they need to be made understand the better way to achieve their goals and make better decisions. Parents should let them talk about their goals and listen to them without being judgmental. They need to brainstorm with their teens to help them discover more mature and better ways of reaching their goals.
Avoid Identity Changes
Teens are likeliest to get influenced by their peers, therefore they might adapt their lifestyles completely. They’d try out different costumes, go out with friends to visit different places, adopt different attitude etc. Since they’re in the age when everything seems curious, they tend to adopt identity changes. Parents should not react negatively to such harmless identity changes because if they do teens might believe their true self is not being trusted. It’s true that much of these identity changes are only temporary and superficial so they should not concern parents. If teens go through serious problems, they would talk about the same with parents on their own.
Help them Control Emotions
There are a few times when teens would not be able to control their emotions. Sometimes their emotions overdrive their rational thinking. Before that happens, they must be taught well on how to deal with their emotions. Parents must help their teens recognize their emotions and also tell them how those emotions can drive them to act more maturely. This way their teens end up becoming responsible adults. Teens who are capable of dealing their emotions with emotional intelligence skills can control their immature drives and solve their issues through communication without adopting immature strategies such as violence or defiance.