Dealing with rejection is always difficult for everyone, but the situation is even worse when a teen goes through a breakup. Unlike adults, they do not know how to cope with the overwhelming emotional trauma. They are new to this pain and completely clueless as to how to cope with it, which is why they get disturbed badly. The pain and misery unrequited love causes takes time to go away. Ending a relationship or breaking up is always painful, but you can make it bearable for your teen by following these tips.

1. Listen More And Talk Less:

Saying things like “I knew this would happen”, “She was not worth it”, “It is your fault”, “He just used you”, and “He was just flirting with you” won’t help. On the contrary, statements like these will only intensify the pain. To avoid such things, it’s best that you stop talking and start listening. The teen may avoid sharing his feelings in the start but chances are he’ll eventually want to talk and open up.

2. Let Him Cry:

Although it’s extremely hard for parents to watch their kids cry in pain, you need to realize that there are times when you have to let teens cry for their own good. Crying and venting is much better than keeping the feelings locked up inside. Give him some space and let the tears flow. This phase, like all others, will eventually pass. Let the teen get out of this phase naturally instead of prematurely pushing him out of it.

3. Just Be There For Him:

Your teen may not want to talk to you or face you right now, but still you should be there for him. He will come out of his shell with time. Do whatever you can to make him happy. Remind him how much you love him and that you’ll always be there for him if and when he needs you.

4. Help Him Overcome:

Try your best to keep him busy and to divert his attention. He may show resistance in the start, but parents always know what to do in these situations. Cook him his favorite dish, arrange a short trip to any nearby place, invite his friends over for dinner, buy him a present, go out to watch his favorite movie, or just spend some quality time together at home, doing whatever interests him.

5. Share Your Pain with Him:

Give him a tour of your teenage years. Tell him your story in detail; how you met your first love, how you two spent time, how close you were, how you broke-up, how you felt after breakup, how you coped with it, how you met your perfect mate. He would probably relate to a lot of things that you went through. This feeling that he is not the only one to have breakup and that you also faced a similar situation will make him strong. In addition, it will strengthen the bonding between you two.

You need to worry too much about your teen’s post-breakup behavior and attitude. Just give him all space he asks for, though don’t give him the sort of privacy he’ll most likely demand, as he can do something really dumb when left completely alone at a time like this.